Thursday, September 30, 2010

Mirror Mirror On The Wall.

Thank whomever you believe in! It’s Friday.

As you venture out this weekend, I’m sure you’ll be thinking about this blog, and noticing how you will see things just a little differently from now on.

Think about the people in your life. The one you like and the ones you can’t stand. What is it about them that makes them so?

Do this now. Take one person you like… why do you like them? And one you hope not to run into this weekend… what don’t you like about them?

You won’t like me saying this, but I propose the following. Whatever you like & dislike in others, exists in you! That right, you my friend are the sum of all the traits you observe in others.

The reason is that, as humans, we only have the capacity to notice in others what exists in us. They are, if you will, a mirror reflection of what we like & dislike about ourselves. The more you accept this idea, the more likely you are to learn something about yourself this weekend.

You will probably meet new people, witness events, small & large, in your days of rest. And as you do so, notice how you will automatically make judgments about other people’s happiness, personality, attitude and so on… then check yourself whenever you notice something negative. Why did you notice it?

We all do this, meet someone and think, “oh nice person, smart, genuine, creative” or “cool, relaxed and full of life” (or whatever) and instead of accepting that as your opinion of them, I want you to consider what it is about you that made you neglect a hundred other traits about that person and only notice certain things. More importantly, what negative traits are you noticing in others?

Finally, when you do meet someone you decide is not worthy of your time, take a extra moment and notice at least two things about them that you do like. Because your ability to see beyond the bad, means that you are capable of overcoming those negative traits within yourself.

I hope you all had a great week, and I wish you a fantastic weekend.

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